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https://bit.ly/3qxPDqj https://bit.ly/3L8BaZK https://bit.ly/3D9nXwT https://bit.ly/3wvVhx3 https://bit.ly/3NizfUp https://bit.ly/36rnz0X https://bit.ly/3ICJzmv Spanking is an important part of our sexual and emotional life, and I certainly would hate to do without it, but it is not the thing that has made the big difference to my relationship with my husband, it is a change of mind that has brought about the change in our marriage. I seem to be sexually turned on all the time these days too, it's nice, but spanking isn't what has done it. by Louise C on 2004 Dec 31 - 12:59 | reply to this comment leadership vs spanking I think in a way you're right Louise. It isn't really about the spanking totally. For me that's what makes the sex so great and having a great sex life has a huge effect on the rest of our relationship. But it's the respect I have for my husband that has also increased. A lot of the increased respect comes from him being willing to stand up to me and to be the head of our home. He need not spank me at all to accomplish that. The spanking just makes it more sexy that's all! But even when he doesn't spank me I love it when he's more assertive. We have had company and just a look or a tone makes me realize when I'm starting to get to bossy(I tend to be that way). We both know no disciplinary spankings are going to occur while the company is here so there is no concern or thought of that. I just am more respectful because he is willing to insist that I act in a more respectful manner. And because he is willing to insist that I be more respectful I respect him more. Wierd isn't it! No one respects someone who lets them walk all over them. I am actually fairly willing to be led if he will simply take the reins. We are both so much happier when he takes the leadership. So I guess the issue is the man taking leadership and the woman being willing to submit to the leadership. Forgive me for using the S word, I know it's a profanity to many!It's just easier to feel submissive and be submissive when he is assertive.
